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Alf
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 posted 4/8/2008 7:17:08 PM
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Hi I joined this forum looking for advice, support etc. I am seriously thinking on getting married with a Russian, Ukranian or Baltic woman, I am 29 years old, but, I get really scared when I read coments or stories, I am afraid to get married and as soon as she gets the paper she might walk away. I have been in many russian and Ukranian cities and to be honest I have seen many girls parctically selling herselfs to tourist from Europe or America, this makes me doubt, I will appreciate all coments good or bad I need as much opinions and share as much experience as possible, thanks guys, and any girls who want to share their opinios are welcome too. thanks
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rcgibbons1
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posted 4/30/2008 8:48:16 PM
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Alf
I have been married to a Russian woman and for over a year now and all I can say is she is one of the finest women I have ever met. We met on the web site Elenasmodels.com and conversed for 4 months before I visited her. I fell in love with her before I ever met. When I first met her face to face, it was like meeting an old friend and I have not had one regret since. Russian women are fine, but as with anywhere else in the world there are good ones and bad ones. The good ones though, are fine women.
Do you homework before writing to one. Learn how to look for scams and learn the "red flag" items that might warn you of wrong intentions.
When you do start writing, write to many at first and then narrow it down because then you will have many to compare her too. This is the best way to spot trouble. You will soon see the difference in the way the good ones write and the way the bad ones write.
I will be happy to discuss more with you if you want.
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rcgibbons1
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posted 4/30/2008 8:53:55 PM
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I am writing again to select the email response, but as I read your comment again, I see you have traveled to these countries already. then you should know that many women there do sell themselves and do use their bodies to find men. One thing I learned while i was in Russia is that it is a popular thought in Russia among women that sex can make a man fall in love with them, so they are more apt to have sex more freely than what is common in the American culture. Sometimes though, due to this thought process, it is done with more pure motives, but there again, many of them have a very loose attitude toward sex. You just have to look hard and try to learn a persons intentions, and unfortunately that usually takes investing some time in the relationship.
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NoWayDude
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posted 5/12/2008 4:51:26 AM
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From my experience I find that it is the same with women of all countries who need external support. You have to be sharp to see what her intentions are. My biggest warning to those who seek marriage is to KNOW THE PERSON. If she comes on too quickly and unnatural that's the red flag. It should be no different from women locally except for the language and cultural barrier. Set a minimum requirement for yourself. 1 to 3 years of interest then see where things escalate. You cannot rush a quality product.
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tennessee_girl
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posted 8/3/2008 4:39:08 PM
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Dont look for girls in internet, get the ticket and get out to Russia. ALl girls in Russia are different, some like money, some look for real relationship, hope you can figure out who is who there.
Dont trust much to internet stuff. Yes, there r some nice girls, but what for to risk. You made a good choice. American women dont cook, feminists and weight alot.
Good luck!
I would like to add to it, don listen people that russians r poor and ook for support. In USA, i see everywhere that local girls r worst about looking for sponsors. They have kids before marriage then look for guys who will support them and their kids, shame. American women never tell you that they need money from you, but they will not talk to you unless you have that money. So russian girls r much better and more honest, at least. They look for strong relationship and never bitch around "Why should i wash your socks, why should i cook for you when i have to go out with my friends or "fancy nails"."
[Message edited by tennessee_girl on 8/3/2008 4:42:10 PM]
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rcgibbons1
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posted 8/3/2008 11:38:39 PM
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It is fine to meet a woman on the internet but as has been said already, you have to read her intentions. I wrote to as many as 15 women before I fell in love with my wife. It was kind of easy to read their intentions and many I never wrote a second letter to because they did come on too strong and it made me suspicious. My wife, however, was the second person I wrote to and I wrote to her the entire time. I just could not get away from her. There was something unique about her and the things she said. It was not possible for me to walk away from her, and now, 2 years and a new child later, I still feel the same.
One thing about not writing to women on the internet and just going there is you know the ones on the internet are interested and willing to leave whatever country they are living in because they joined the web site to begin with, and for many women this is not an easy thing to do. They have to make very inconvienent efforts and they have to spend money that they don't have a lot of just to respond to emails. Many have to travel an hour or more to get to an internet connection, and then have to pay for the time they spend on it.
In my experience from living there and teaching English to adults there, most are not interested in coming to the US, so if you blindly went there thinking they are all just looking to leave, you will be very surprised when you find it very difficult to even meet them, and then find it difficult to find one that wants to leave. I have discussed this with at least a hundred different students of mine, and not any of them really wanted to leave Russia. They were learning English to get better jobs there. It was really surprising to me as an American to learn this.
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